Be the Example; Not the Opinionated

Hey all!

One of my absolute all -time favorite authors is Bob Goff. He wrote “Love Does”, “Everybody Always” and, just recently, “Dream Big”.

Bob + Marie Goff

Y’all. That dude is just amazing and so inspiring, to me. The way he constantly loves the people around him, inspires me to do the same. Seriously, read his books and prepare for your life to be changed.

But, Bob Goff isn’t what this post is going to be about. Nope. In fact, we’re going to discuss a quote from the book “Love Lives Here”, by his wife, Maria Goff. (Also, read that book. It is also, incredibly inspirational.)

In her book “Love Lives Here”, Maria Goff said something which I found very profound (though, to be honest, that whole book is filled with profound sayings…), and wanted to share with y’all.

Don’t settle for having an opinion, when you can be an example. “

-Maria Goff

I think that this quote fits in, right with the times we are currently living in.

As Christians, we are called to tell others about Jesus, and to spread the Gospel. We are called to be a light to the darkened world, around us. Some people think it is their calling to go out in the middle of public gatherings, and tell everyone how they’re a sinner, through a megaphone. But, I don’t think that’s the way to go about these things.

More often than not, peoples’ lives are changed by the actions of others. Not by what they say. But by what they do.

Now, I am not saying that speaking the Gospel doesn’t work. Because it most absolutely does. I am merely pointing out, that we need to be aware of our actions, be aware of what we are always doing, because people watch. And when people watch, they automatically stereotype you as being something, and your actions will define who you are and who you serve, for as long as you live. Do you want to be known as someone who serves themselves, or as someone who serves an almighty, and loving God?

In this world, we need to be more focused on living out our faith, and being an example to those around us. You can say all day you are a Christian, but those words will mean absolutely nothing to someone, if the next day, you are committing adultery, stealing, or doing any wrong thing. People are almost always watching our actions and we need to act as if they always were.

None of us are perfect. I, of all people, definitely know that. Since none of us are perfect, that means we are all going to mess up, throughout our lives. But. We can pray, and we can ask God to help us live for Him and conquer the day. If we focus on living for God, and being a godly example, then we most likely we be more prone to that. Yes, you will mess up. Yes, you will fall down. But so do we all. What you need to realize, is that God is always here, always has been, and if you ask Him, He’s willing to pick you back up again and help you on your feet; ready to continue the race.

So. Let us be a godly, Christian example to those around us. Don’t feel like you always need to be the opinionated one, because God knows we have plenty of those around us. Just settle for being an example, and see where God takes you in that.

Carpe Diem!

-Keziah ❤

12 thoughts on “Be the Example; Not the Opinionated”

  1. Yes. This. I’ve dealt with a lot of opinionated people over the years, and they don’t ever think about, or possibly don’t realize, that their opinions aren’t what will go out and bring people to Jesus. Many times being opinionated has the opposite effect.

    Related story: one time many years ago (I was in my late 20s, I think), the Bible study I was in at the time spent about an hour debating what exact minute of the night it was appropriate to leave your significant other’s house so as not to give the impression to the neighbors that you guys were sleeping together. I don’t remember what the intended topic of the study was, but I think it was somehow tied to Ephesians 5:3 about not a hint of immorality. I think the answer they came up with was somewhere around 3am, but I don’t remember how they reached that conclusion.

    Several years later, when I was, um, 34, I watched a movie with a girl I was kind of seeing on a Saturday night, and I went to her church on Sunday morning. She needed a ride at the time. So I slept on her couch. For me to have gone home would have accomplished absolutely nothing except to waste an hour of sleep and two gallons of gas. On Sunday night, I got a very condescending lecture from my delusional busybody roommate about not a hint of immorality and how wrong it is to sleep with someone you’re nor married to (this man was in his late 40s at the time who is not related to me, but because he knew me from church he felt that gave him license to make this his business).

    What these people don’t think about is that people outside the church don’t care about this. Most of the people who make a big deal of this sort of stuff don’t really spend a lot of time around people outside the church. The unchurched are watching Christians to see the way we treat people, the way we love people, stuff like that. They aren’t watching to see if we spend the night at significant others’ houses, because in their world, staying over with a significant other is perfectly normal behavior. Don’t get me wrong; the Bible says that sex is for a man and his wife. I’m not disagreeing with that. I did not have sex with this woman on the incident in question. But when those outside of the church criticize Christianity, it isn’t because Christians spend the night on couches of romantic partners. So if we as Christians really want to show the world not a hint of immorality, what we should be doing is setting an example of loving our spouses, sticking together through bad times, not flirting with everyone of the opposite sex at parties, keeping communication open, not making selfish decisions at our spouses’ expense, and not making fun of our spouses or the institution of marriage. That is what the unchurched world is going to be looking for, not making sure that one goes home from his girlfriend’s house at 2:59am or earlier.

    I know this is an unpopular opinion in some circles. If you or anyone reading this disagrees, that’s fine. If you aren’t comfortable staying overnight on your significant other’s couch because of temptation, that’s fine. But don’t assume that everyone who does stay overnight on the couch is going to succumb to temptation, and don’t assume that those people are bad Christians.

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      1. Many of my best stories about these kinds of busybodies won’t show up in my blog, because they happened after I moved away from Jeromeville. Years from now, when I’m done with DLTDGB, if I want to do another continuing story blog, I’ll write about the time I spent 117 days on the road trying to find myself. I’ll start with the back story, much of which involves the kinds of busybodies like these.

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    1. I absolutely agree with you. For example, I’ve often seen people question a fellow Christian’s faith/salvation because they like a movie/book the other doesn’t (I’m not referring to those who criticise particular movies/book; I’m referring to those who judge the persons who like those movies/books). Aside from that being inherently stupid, I often feel like saying “And what kind of picture do you think you’re sending to unbelievers?!”

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      1. Exactly. People like that don’t think of how unbelievers see them… probably because people like that don’t ever really take the time to get to know actual unbelievers in person.

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